A Letter to My 20-Year-Old Daughter Dear 20-Year-Old Daughter, Here we are. It’s the eve of your 20th birthday. We’re spending it in our typical low-key fashion. You’re on your laptop working on homework. There’s a cookie cake resting on the counter that has already been halfway eaten (devoured). We’re passing the time watching funny commercials that are rudely interrupted… Read More
Why I’m Not Always on Your Side Dear Youngest Daughter, I thought you knew. Maybe I took for granted that you understood that I am and always will be your biggest fan. Lately, though, it’s come to my attention that from time to time that you don’t feel like I’m on your side. The first time you slouched in… Read More
The ground shifted beneath her feet. It was subtle, most likely not a tangible shift because no one else in the room reacted. Everyone else was going about their business without missing a beat: replacing an IV bag, checking vitals, scribbling family information on a dry erase board across from the bed. Only she felt her footing give. She reached out to touch the wall. Her fingertips grazed the smooth surface. She took a breath. The nurse said something to her. She nodded without fully understanding what he said. She should pay more attention. It could be important. Yet all she could do was breathe and let that breath pull her through to the next moment.
Do you find yourself always saying no to new experiences? Are you consistently avoiding new situations because you fear you have nothing to offer or are unworthy of an experience? Let me tell you that you’re not alone. Sidestepping new adventures that throw us far out of our comfort zone is a defense mechanism. It’s meant to protect us when it really just holds us back from the awesomeness and love of the world we live in. It keeps us on the sidelines of personal growth and prevents us from being who we are wholly meant to be.
Our lives are lived in intense and anxious struggle, in a swirl of speed and aggression, in competing, grasping, possessing and achieving, forever burdening ourselves with extraneous activities and preoccupations. – Sogyal Rinpoche Tonight I can see the new year over the horizon. In a few hours, the hands on the clock will stack on top of each other, chimes… Read More
Here it is. The Proof. A proof copy is the final stage of the editing process. But, for me, it’s so much more. It’s The Proof that I did it. That I worked through the writing pains, made it through the creative process, and trudged through the quicksand known as doubt and insecurity. The Proof is in the writing, and… Read More